Oct 1612 min read

Adult Truth or Dare

Questions that reveal secret turn-ons

"What's your definition of amazing sex?"
"If you could have sex in any location in the world, where would it be?"
"If you could have sex with any celebrity, who would it be—and what do you think it would it be like?"
"What's one of your favorite sexual fantasies?" A fantasy your partner shares may surprise you—in a good, or not-so-good, way. Harper says to keep in mind that fantasies are simply that: "They never have to become reality."
"What porn are you watching right now?" This question creates another space to discuss one's fantasies versus their wants from reality. "Most of the time, the type of porn we watch doesn't directly correlate to the sex we want to have in real life," Ligon says.
"What do you look like, and sound like, when sex feels good for you?"
"What's something non-sexual that turns you on?"
"Do you have a sexual fetish? If so, what is it?"
"What types of games gave you the most joy as a child?" Citing the ideas of renowned sex educator Midori, Ligon says that "kink play is just the adult version of 'playtime,' with fun tools and adult privileges." For example, answers such as tag or wrestling "might inspire a sexy game of naked boisterous play."
"What do you think about when you masturbate?"
"What would an erotic vacation look like for you?"
"Is there a sexy song that tends to get you in the mood?"
"Have you ever been caught having sex before? Tell me about it." If you ever find yourself feeling jealous when hearing about a partner's past escapades, Dr. Harper suggests acknowledging the feeling and moving on. If your partner prickles at hearing your answers, she adds, "maybe restate the purpose of the conversation, saying, 'I didn't really mean to make you feel that way. My goal is to have fun and spice things up a bit."
"What's something you've always wanted to ask me to try—but assumed I wouldn't like?"
"Is there an erotic movie scene that turns you on to watch? Want to watch together?"
"Where's the wildest place you've ever hooked up with someone before?"
"Are there types of clothing that you find highly erotic?" You might be expecting the answer to be all lacy bras and skimpy lingerie. But, Ligon points out, "there are many erotic objects that aren’t inherently sexual and get the blood flowing. Maybe it's bike shorts, or socks!"
"Want to try making as much noise during sex as possible?"
"Want to try sex as quietly as possible, as if we’re trying not to get caught?"
"Can we spend a night devoted to your pleasure and what makes you feel good?" This helps you discover new ways to please them in the moment (it’s your turn next!)
"Want to try using food as foreplay?"
"Have you ever fantasized about someone else while having sex?"
"What color underwear would you like to see me in later?"
"Do you like playing music in the background or silence?"
"How many people have you had sex with?"
"Do you remember the best orgasm you’ve ever had?"
"Is spanking something you’d like to try with me?"
"Where would you most like to be kissed?"
"Which do you like more—sending dirty texts, or dirty talk in person?"
"Where would you like me to lick you?"
"What is your favorite position?"
"How do you feel about anal play?"
"Have you ever thought about trying tantric sex?"
"Have you ever been caught masturbating? How did it make you feel?"
"What’s your favorite type of foreplay?"
"What is the most amount of times you've had sex in a single day?"
"Can you describe the last time you got turned on in public?"
"Which would you like more—to be in control, or to be dominated?"
"Would you rather have sex on a plane, or on a moving train?"
"Have you ever sent or received a nude?"
"Would you rather have car sex or shower sex?"

Questions about how you turn each other on

“What would you do if we were alone together?” This is best whispered in a crowded place, says Dr. Harper.
"What's something you want more of in our sex life?"
"Do you want us to have a threesome?"
"What’s the most unusual place you'd like to have sex with me?"
"Where’s somewhere in our home you'd like to 'christen' with sex?"
"What's your favorite time of day to have sex?"
“What is the most embarrassing thing that’s happened during sex?” This can be a great one for new partners, especially. "Discussing those moments may be not hot for some of us, but it also paves the way for us to get all of the fears and worries about sexual mishaps out of the way," says Ligon.
"Can we try this sex position when you get home?" Send a text while they're out to build anticipation.
"What would you like me to wear to bed tonight?"
"Where, and how, can I touch you that would turn you on?"
"Would you like to use one of these vibrators on me?" Send a link to your favorite selections.
"Have I ever turned you on while we were in public? If so, how?"
"What could I say or text to you that would get you hot immediately?"
"Want to play never-have-I-ever?"
"Do you have a favorite sexual memory of us?" Memory is subjective, so your partner might surprise you with what (and how) they look back at moments you've shared. Building those intimate bonds and then reliving them can be the 'glue' that provides comfort in times of distress, or when you're feeling less sexual.
"Can we shop for sex toys together?"
"Do you want to make a sex tape?"
"Can I try to make you orgasm without using my hands?"
"Do you prefer giving or receiving?"
"I'm wearing vibrating panties right now—want to control the remote?"
"Have you ever had a hot dream about me?"
"How would you feel about going skinny-dipping?"
"Do you like it rough?"
"Can I read you a sexy story?"
"Does the idea of partner-swapping make you feel jealous, turned on, or both?"
"What’s your favorite part of my body?"
"Want to try a massage candle?"
"What’s the best thing about our sex life?"
"Can I pull your hair?"
"What would you like to watch me do to myself, sexually?"
"What’s the dirtiest thing you’d like to hear me say during sex?"
"Do I taste good?"
"How does it feel when I touch you here?"
"What is an instant turn-on for you?"

Truths

1. What's a seemingly nonsexual thing that turns you on?

2. Have you ever had sex with more than one person in a day?

3. What's the biggest age difference you've ever had with a partner?

4. What's the most embarrassing thing that’s happened to you during sex?

5. Have you ever cheated? (Bonus question for the brave: Did it turn you on?)

6. Have you ever turned down a sexual opportunity and regretted it?

7. When did you learn what sex was? What’s the story?

8. Have you ever faked and orgasm?

9. Have you ever accidentally sent a sext to the wrong person?

10. How do you feel about shower sex? Love it, hate it, or super neutral?

11. What's the sexiest song you've ever heard? What about it turns you on?

12. What's the most amount of times you've orgasmed in a day?

13. If we opened up our relationship, who would be the first person you’d want to have sex with?

14. Who would be in your dream orgy?

15. What do you remember most about the first time you ever had sex?

16. Who is the weirdest person you’ve had a sex dream about?

17. If you could have sex with one person from your past again, who would it be?

18. Would you ever want to watch me have sex with someone else?

19. What’s one sex toy you want me to try on you?

20. What’s a fantasy you’ve never told me about?

21. What memory from our sex life turns you on the most?

22. What would be your dream role-play scenario?

23. If you could hook up with one of my friends, who would it be?

24. What do you think I’m best at in bed?

25. Have you ever gotten turned on at work (or while WFH)? What did you do about it?

26. Have you ever hooked up with a stranger or had a one-night stand?

27. Do you prefer using your tongue or fingers on me? Which do you like me to use on you?

28. How do you feel about swinging or partner swapping? Does the idea turn you on?

29. What's something I do that isn't sexual but turns you on?

30. Would you ever want to go to a sex club with me?

31. Where is the strangest place you’ve ever masturbated?

32. What’s #1 on your sexual bucket list right now?

33. Have you ever been caught having sex?

34. Have you ever accidentally walked in on anyone getting it on?

35. Do you ever watch porn? Tell me what type you usually gravitate toward.

36. What’s the kinkiest thought you’ve ever had about me?

37. What’s a sex act most people like that you think is overrated?

38. What sexual activity (or activities) do you think is underrated?

39. Have you ever fantasized about a teacher or authority figure? Who was it and why?

40. Do you know the last name of everyone you’ve had sex with? What about first?

41. What is your favorite body part for me to suck on?

42. Would you prefer to dominate me in bed or do you want me to dominate you in bed?

43. Do you like being nibbled on or lightly bitten? Where?

44. What's your favorite sex toy to use on me?

45. What's the kinkiest thing you've ever done?

46. What’s the hottest sex dream you’ve ever had?

47. Tell me one thing I could do that would make you immediately orgasm.

48. Which is your favorite kind of sex: soft, slow, and sweet or aggressive, fast, and feisty?

49. If I gave you a free pass to hook up with one celebrity, who would it be and why?

50. What item of clothing do you think I look sexiest in?

51. Describe my in-bed personality in three words.

52. If I were handcuffed to the bed, what would you do to me?

53. If you were to create an original sex move, what would you call it?

54. What's something dirty you've always been too shy to say to me in bed?

55. If we could only have sex in one position for a month, what position would you pick?

56. Is there something you've seen in a steamy movie that you'd like to try?

57. What sex move of mine is your favorite? Give me all the dirty details about why you like it.

58. What kind of foreplay would you like to try the next time we are in bed?

59. Where do you think our most romantic kiss took place? Tell me everything you remember about it.

60. When I am on top of you, what's your favorite part of me to watch?

61. How often do you masturbate? How often is it about me?

62. If you could go back and change anything about the first time we had sex, what would it be and why?

63. What’s your favorite text I’ve sent you when we’ve been sexting?

64. What is your least favorite sex position and why?

65. How do you feel about threesomes? Have you ever had one, and if not, would you ever have one?

66. What do you think the sexiest part of my body is?

67. What do you think the sexiest part of your body is?

68. Have you ever fantasized about anything sexual with someone of your same sex?

69. What’s the wildest place you’ve ever had sex?

70. What were you thinking when you first saw me naked?

71. Fuck, Marry, Kill: Missionary, doggy, and oral sex.

72. Have you ever fallen asleep during sex?

Dares

1. Pretend we’re strangers at a bar and you just spotted me. Try to pick me up.

2. Go down on me in a position we’ve never tried before.

3. Draw me (like one of your French girls).

4. Roleplay that you’re a professor and I’m your student. Seduce me.

5. Describe what type of lingerie really turns you on while making eye contact with me. If you laugh, you have to buy some for me.

6. Take out your wallet and pretend to be a patron at a strip club while I dance for you. (Tips are more than encouraged.)

7. Go to the kitchen and make me the sexiest snack you can think of, Master Chef style. The catch? You only have three minutes, and you’re the plate.

8. I’ll pick a song and you have to give me a lap dance. Blindfolded.

9. You can’t say my name for the rest of the game, but instead, have to call me any nickname I choose. Every time you mess up, I get to spank you.

10. Act out your sexiest fantasy without using your words. Props, however, are highly encouraged.

11. Go skinny dipping with me. (If you don’t have a private pool, get creative! The bathtub, shower, or a water fight in the kitchen all count.)

12. Trade clothes with me for the rest of the game. Once you put mine on, blast your fave hype song and show off your new look like a runway model.

13. Try to literally (li li li) lick yourself from your head to your toes. You only get three “help” spots where I can jump in, so use wisely.

14. Show me the last porn video you watched.

15. Watch me touch myself for five minutes. You’re not allowed to touch me or yourself while I do.

16. Kiss a part of my body you want to cum on.

17. Take my hand and put it on a part of your body you’d like me to pay more attention to. Guide my hand and show me how you want to be touched.

18. You have one minute to turn me on using only your feet.

19. Show me a video (an ~adult~ one, duh) of something you’d like us to try together.

20. Put on a song you find really sexy and go down on me for the length of it.

21. Imitate what I sound like when I orgasm.

22. Blindfold me and write something sexy on my body in lipstick.

23. Go in the other room and sext me the dirtiest thing you can think of.

24. Show me how you touch yourself when I’m not around.

25. Take off your pants and give me your best twerk. Now try it upside down on the wall.

26. Host a sexy, five-minute yoga class for me with lots of sensual stretching and downward dogging.

27. Call me from the other room. When it goes to voicemail, leave me an explicit message outlining exactly what you want to do to me.

28. Demonstrate your best oral sex move on the nearest appropriate object.

29. Put on "Pony" by Ginuwine, and vacuum seductively for the length of the song.

30. Turn out the lights and try to turn me on only using sounds. You have two minutes and if you fail, you owe me a sexual favor.

31. Give me a sensual foot massage. The hotter, the better.

32. Kiss your three favorite body parts of my body.

33. Put on a timer and act out as many sexual positions as you can with your clothes on.

34. Pick out three sex toys online you’d want to try with me. I get to pick my favorite one and you have to order it right now.

35. Take a selfie of your most outrageous “O” face. Now put that as your lock screen, and keep it that way for the next 48 hours. If you change it before time’s up, you owe me dinner.

36. Give me a detailed, charismatic cooking demonstration of “How to Make Cereal.” The catch: You gotta do it nude.

37. Set the mood and reenact the most romantic movie kiss you can think of with me. If you need some inspo, try Titanic, The Notebook, or even Spider-Man. Who knows, things might get so heated you find yourself reenacting some Bridgerton scenes next wink wink.

38. Go find your old Halloween costume and put it on for me. Then, let's decide what to role-play.

39. Place whipped cream on your favorite parts of my body. Now, lick it off.

40. Eat a strawberry in the most sensual way possible.

41. Engage in foreplay with me for five minutes with one rule: You're allowed to kiss me anywhere but my mouth.

42. Give me a massage anywhere on my body for 10 minutes.

43. Do something to me right now that you've been fantasizing about.

44. Find something sweet to swipe across your lips and give me a passionate kiss.

45. Drag me to the closet for an adult round of seven minutes in heaven. You must keep the making out above the belt.

46. Stimulate two parts of my body at once. Use your hands on one part and lips on another.

47. Using your mouth, make your way from my wrist to my ear. Take your time!

48. In your most sultry voice, tell me what you loved about the last time we had sex.

49. Hop in the shower with me and wash my body, making sure not to miss any hard spots.

50. You have ten seconds to excite me just by kissing. Hint: You're not limited to my lips.

51. Imitate my most flexible sex move.

52. Make out with me like we used to before we started having sex.

53. Pole dance with an imaginary pole for the length of an entire song of my choice.

54. Play me a song you’d like to have sex to.

55. Using your fingers, find a way to give me goosebumps right now.

56. Demonstrate a move on me that you saw and liked while watching porn.

57. Give me a sensual massage. Start at my feet and work your way up.

58. For the next 60 seconds, touch yourself like you’d like to touch me.

59. Spell out a short, sultry message on my body…with your tongue.

60. Initiate a roleplay scenario and make me guess what your character is.

61. I’m going to go into the other room and dab perfume or cologne somewhere on my body. You have to sniff everywhere until you figure out where I put it on.